5 Things I’ve Learned from Shonda Rhimes


I just finished Shonda Rhime’s book Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun, and Be Your Own Person. If you’ve never heard of Shonda she’s the mastermind behind Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal, Private Practice and How to Get Away with Murder. She’s created all four of the shows and she’s the head writer for all of them.

I am always fascinated by women who have multiple jobs yet still have time to be moms, have strong friendships and lead fabulous lives. I am not a huge fan of her shows, I’ve pretty much watched all of them until season 3 and given up, but I can see what the appeal is and I understand why so many people are faithful viewers. Has anyone ever owned a complete night of TV on a network? I’m not sure what the answer to that is but I think it’s extremely commendable. Here are 5 things I learned from Queen Shonda:


  1. “It’s not bragging if you can back it up” – If you are the best in your industry and you brag about being the best it’s not technically bragging! Your numbers speak for themselves.
  2. “Men do it all the time. Take the compliment and run. They don’t make themselves smaller. They don’t apologize for being powerful. They don’t downplay their accomplishments.” – If someone tells you you look great today, SAY THANKS.  If someone tells you you absolutely kick ass at your job, SAY THANKS AND KEEP IT MOVING.
  3. “You know what happens when all of your dreams come true? Nothing. I realized a very simple truth: that success, fame, having all my dreams come true would not fix or improve me, it wasn’t an instant potion for personal growth. Having all my dreams come true only seemed to magnify whatever qualities I already possessed” – This is coming from the woman who owns a night of network TV, if she’s telling you whatever you think you need to finally be happy won’t make you happy you must LISTEN. You can only fix you, not another zero in your paycheck, not finally having someone to go on a date with, not losing an extra 10 pounds.
  4. “We all spend our lives kicking the crap out of ourselves for not being this way or that way, not having this thing or that thing, not being like this person or that person. For not living up to some standard we think applies across the board to all of us. We all spend our lives trying to follow the same path, live by the same rules. I think we believe that happiness lies in following the same list of rules. In being more like everyone else. That? Is wrong. There is no list of rules. There is one rule. The rule: there are no rules” – Your path should never be the same as anyone else’s, enough said.
  5. “I think a lot of people dream. And while they are busy dreaming, the really happy people, the really successful people, the really interesting, powerful, engaged people? Are busy doing” – Get off your ass and get some ish done.

This book will definitely be on my top 5 for 2015! I highly recommend you check it out and let me know your thoughts.